She & HER
Vol. 01 · No. 03
A Proposal · Houston → Everywhere
May 2026
A Proposal for Ryan O. Harris

The eye
was always
the unlock.

A Houston-built sapphic dating brand, a CEO and founder you'd be building alongside, and a category jump for the brands you grow next. Three lanes, mutual upside, one conversation.

I. A note, before the data

Ryan — most pitches open by explaining themselves. This one opens by acknowledging that you're already great at what you do, and that's not the pitch. The pitch is what your work compounds into when it's pointed at the right brand at the right moment, and what the right brand and the right moment open up for you.

She & HER is a sapphic dating app — for women and nonbinary people who love women — built the way the category should have been built the first time. Houston-based. Engineered by ex-Google, ex-Microsoft, ex-Etsy. Beta opens September. NYC Pride float locked for June. AfroTech Field Partner status confirmed for November. Disney sapphic day reserved for National Lesbian Day 2027.

The rest of this document does three things. It maps your existing work against what we have. It shows you the math of the category you'd be entering. And it draws — explicitly — the ladder of capital and access this opens for you. The ask is mutual upside, not a favor.

II. The translation, line by line

What you've already built — extended into what we have.

Five patterns from your portfolio, each one already pointed at the kind of brand She & HER is. Tap a row to see the extension.

Your pattern, today
→ Pointed at She & HER
Avant GardenMontrose · live music · queer programming
Mood-led venue branding becomes mood-led category branding
You took a Montrose patio with a 1996 founding date and made it read as one of The New York Times' top must-visit Houston spots. The playbook — atmospheric design language, late-hour photography, refusal of mainstream nightlife clichés — is the exact register sapphic dating has been begging for. We are the venue. Houston-built.
Craft Burger HTXFounder-led F&B reframe
Founder-as-brand storytelling CEO and founder positioning
Shannen Tune (Chopped champion, founder) is a brand because the brand was built around the human. Same lever, larger stakes: Desi (CEO and founder, ex-Google/Microsoft/Etsy, MS Bioinformatics) is the founder layer of a category-defining brand. You've already made this move work in F&B; the consumer-tech version pays differently.
Texas Bar & Nightclub AssociationMarket Lead · institutional reach
Texas hospitality network the on-the-ground rooms a national consumer brand needs
Pearl Bar, Dream Con, AfroTech (Houston, Nov), Fox 26 — our infrastructure overlaps your network. You don't have to build us into the rooms; you already are the rooms. The handshake from Texas hospitality to consumer-tech is a path nobody else inside TX BNA has the brand-fit to walk.
Beyoncé · Lady Gaga · Live Nation · Bud LightTier-one talent & activation history
Stadium-scale narrative range Disney 2027 · NYC Pride · AfroTech main-stage
You've held narratives at the scale we're building toward. Disney sapphic day in '27, NYC Pride float in '26, AfroTech main-stage speaking — none of these scale up past your ceiling. That's not a hypothetical; that's a runway you've already been calibrated for.
SXSW MentorInstitutional credibility
Operator-not-vendor signal moves the partnership room
When the brand walks into a partnership room — Disney, Greyhound, a national publication, a Series-A consumer fund — your name on the deck signals that the brand picked an operator, not a vendor. The brand reads as serious because the seat is held by someone who's been institutionally credentialed.
↑ tap a row to read the translation
III. The math of what you'd be attached to

Bigger than the category looks. Smaller than the moment will stay open.

The category isn't niche. It's underbuilt. The capital is real, the consumer base is real, and the window for category-defining brand operators to claim it is about thirty-six months.

US LGBTQ+ buying power
$1.4–2trillion

10th-largest economy in the world if it stood alone. Over-indexes on travel, fashion, financial services, electronics.

US LGBTQ+ media spend
$11.7billion

Decelerating to 2.2% growth in 2025 as DEI policies weaken. Brands pulling back creates a moat for brand-owners with conviction.

LGBTQ+ dating app TAM, 2033
$6billion

Up from $2B in 2025. 15% CAGR — fastest segment of an otherwise mature category.

Black consumer spend, 2030
$1.7trillion

Houston-built, Black-founded, Black queer-aligned brand sits at an over-indexed intersection.

LGBTQ+ dating app market — projected growth, 2024 → 2033
Industry consensus range, USD billions. Hover a bar for value.
$1.5B
$2.0B
$2.4B
$2.8B
$3.3B
$3.9B
$4.5B
$5.2B
$6.0B
'24
'25
'26
'27
'28
'29
'30
'31
'32
Highlighted bars are years where a category-defining sapphic-specific brand could compound — She & HER beta opens September 2026 and is positioned to ride the curve from year one.
Sources: Verified Market Reports (LGBTQ Dating App Market 2025–2033), DataInsightsMarket (CAGR 9.3% conservative scenario, 15% growth scenario).

The headwind is the opening.

Brand budgets for LGBTQ+ media are decelerating because corporate DEI is in retreat. That's not a category problem — it's a brand-builder vacuum. The sapphic operators with conviction this year claim the visual register, the press infrastructure, and the audience trust that the rest of the category will spend the next decade trying to buy back.

2.2%15%
Media-spend growth · vs · Sapphic dating-app growth
IV. The capital + access ladder

The brands you grow next, and the rooms they put you in.

Each rung is a different kind of money and a different kind of access. Where you are today is rung two. Where She & HER + Desi as a node lives is rung four. The jump matters because the rung matters.

i
Local hospitalityAdjacent — not your seat
Capital type: Owner-operator cash flow. Project fees, retainers, regional brand budgets.
Local press cycles · neighborhood association rooms · hospitality conferences. $5–25K typical engagement.
ii
Texas hospitality & F&B at scaleWhere you are now
Capital type: Multi-unit operator budgets, regional CPG pilots, association leadership. Cash + reputation.
Texas Monthly · Houston Chronicle features · TX BNA programming · SXSW mentor circuit · stadium activation budgets. $25–150K typical engagement.
iii
National consumer brandWhere She & HER puts you in '26
Capital type: Founder-stage equity, CMO-track retainers from venture-backed consumer brands, equity slivers in scaling startups.
TechCrunch · Vogue Business · NYT Style · Bloomberg · LGBTQ+ category media (Them., Out, Autostraddle) · founder-circle rooms · early-equity windows. $150K–500K + equity.
iv
Category-defining brand operatorWhere the trajectory leads in '27 →
Capital type: Founding-creative equity stakes in multiple scaling brands, board-adjacent advisory, fund-LP positions, brand-operator syndicates.
Cannes Lions · Ad Age 40 Under 40 / Power List · Disney brand partnerships · international press (Vogue UK, Monocle, Wallpaper) · brand-operator syndicate equity. $500K+ blended cash + equity, multi-brand portfolio.

Estimates derived from public benchmarks for senior brand-strategist comp at each tier. Your actual numbers will vary; the shape of the ladder is the point.

V. The asks — two lanes, one strategist

One seat with two sides. The brand, and the founder.

The seat is a strategist who shapes story before any creative goes near it. It runs on two parallel tracks — both lanes need to move in tandem for either to compound. Most brands separate them and lose the leverage.

Lane A · The brand

She & HER, as a category-defining sapphic brand.

PR, press, and brand marketing for the company itself. The seat that owns story, voice, and earned media across every surface.

  • Public Relations Founder narrative, launch announcement, partnership reveals (Pearl Bar, AfroTech, Adult Supervision Needed, Party Noire-adjacent operators), Disney 2027 rollout.
  • Press & Earned Fox 26 Nightcap, TechCrunch, Houston Chronicle, The Cut, Them., Bloomberg sapphic-economy coverage, AfroTech editorial, international press cycle Q1 '27.
  • Brand Marketing The voice across Brevo email, partnership pages, NYC Pride float storyline, the Powder Room series, Houston launch event. Direct the brief; our team executes.
Lane B · The founder

Desi, as a brand operator in her own right.

Founder-as-asset positioning. Press, stage, and board-adjacent visibility for Desirée Yvonne Mayon as a category-defining founder voice — independent of and compounding with the brand.

  • Founder press & thought leadership TechCrunch profile, Vogue Business, NYT Style, Bloomberg, Inc.com Female Founders, podcast circuit, AfroTech main-stage keynote, Bloomberg Originals.
  • Speaking + stage circuit SXSW (you mentor it; you can route her to it), Cannes Lions, Web Summit, Ad Age, queer-tech panels, Black founder tracks, AfroTech, Rice + HBS guest lectures.
  • Board + investor-facing positioning Founder-as-asset arc — board-adjacent advisory, fund-advisor positioning, investor brand-building. Long horizon, highest leverage on her trajectory.
VI. What "via her" actually means

Desi as a node. Tap a connection to read the unlock.

The founder lane isn't abstract — it's a graph. Each connection here is a real handshake or ongoing conversation. What it opens for you is in plain language. Tap any node.

The unlock

Tap a node →

Each node is a relationship Desi already holds. Some are warm, some are active, some are confirmed partnerships. The connections aren't decorative — they're how the founder lane converts into capital and access for whoever holds the strategist seat.

Default view: the whole graph. Tap any node to see what's behind it.
VII. The runway you'd be steering

Twelve months. Six moments that matter.

Jun · '26NYC Pride

The float, the after-hours, the photography that becomes the proof.

Confirmed float in the parade, brand activation, Greyhound busing initiative. Press angle: Houston-built brand showing up in NYC the way New York shows up to Houston.

Jul · '26Dream Con HTX

Houston weekend — Pearl Bar after-hours, No Homo Show episode.

Two anchors, your home market. The Pearl Bar (Julie) co-host slot. The No Homo Show episode. Local press dovetailed into the Dream Con cultural moment.

Sept · '26Beta Launch

Closed beta — Rice, HBCUs, HBS, Columbia, NYU.

Distribution is set. Story isn't. The press moment that decides whether the category remembers a new entrant, or remembers a new thesis.

Nov · '26AfroTech

Field Partner, main-stage speaking, 3–4 workshops, Houston home court.

Sevanne's "Who's Your Human?" workshop. Founder keynote. Brand presence engineered through your eye, not through a sponsor table.

Q1 · '27UK Pride · Amsterdam

International story arc opens.

Phyll Opoku-Gyimah and UKBP. Amsterdam Pride. The European press cycle that compounds Year 1 — Vogue UK, Monocle, Wallpaper, Time Out London.

Oct · '27Disney Sapphic Day

National Lesbian Day at the resort — whole-team stays comped.

Marquee year-two moment. Category-first cultural placement. Press rollout for this is built in 2026.

VIII. What this isn't

A short list, in the interest of your time.

If any of these feel closer to what you'd want, say so and we'll either reshape it or wave each other off cleanly.

This is not —

  • Not influencer placement./The grid is yours.
  • Not visual director / shooter on set./You direct the brief; creative production lives with our team and Opportune Design.
  • Not Pride-month-only./Year-round. Pride is one month of twelve.
  • Not retainer-as-favor./Your time is priced like your time.
  • Not "represent us at events."/The seat is strategic. Showing up at the right rooms is a happy byproduct.
IX. Compensation, in shape

Numbers, in the room. Shape, on the page.

Tap a shape to expand it. Anchored at the category-defining brand operator tier from the ladder above — not at "regional retainer."

Shape A

Retainer + earned upside

Monthly cash + bonuses on named moments.

Shape B

Founding-creative equity

Smaller cash, meaningful equity, founding title.

Shape C

Project-scoped engagements

Defined scope around named moments only.

Shape D · my lean

Hybrid — retainer + equity + bonus

Modest monthly + equity + milestone bonuses.

Shape D — Hybrid · my lean

Modest monthly retainer + an equity grant on a vesting schedule + milestone bonuses tied to named moments (NYC Pride, Beta launch, AfroTech, Disney 2027). The most common shape for senior strategist-as-partner roles, and the one I'd put in the middle of the table first.

It rewards the steady work, gives you exposure to the brand's compounding, and pays out distinctly when the press wins land. The cash floor protects the floor; the equity protects the upside; the bonuses protect the credit.

Pros: balance of risk + upside, aligned incentives, multiple comp surfaces. Tradeoff: lower monthly than pure retainer; equity vests over time.
· & ·

So. What do you think.

The next move is a conversation, not a contract. Thirty minutes, your tempo. If the read lands, we shape the seat together. If it doesn't, we'll have at least named the right thing out loud — which is more than most pitches do.